I told my son that we would be going downtown to march for justice. He said, ” mom what’s the purpose shouldn’t we just let the justice system handle it”? I said son we march because the court system isn’t set up to protect us. We march because we want laws to be changed so that people of color are better protected by police brutality and violence. We march because if we remain silence who will stand for the voiceless. We march because if we unite in protest, marches, rallies and yes even boycotts if we unite, a movement will form, that can not be ignored and then and only then will they listen.
Most people’s idea of winning is when you beat your competition and come in first place. For some winning in this matter means the world to them. Some people spend their entire life trying to beat out all the competition to be the one at the top…the “big dog”. Their dream in life is to be recognize as the very best…better than all the rest….and by any means necessary. No matter the cost, their willing to suffer the consequences, rather if it’s sacrificing love ones, relationships, loyalties and sometimes even “selling out”…for them the end justifies the means.
I’ve come to adopt a new idealism on winning. I think of winning in a communal sense. Which means I can’t win if your not winning also. I win…you win…we all win! Now to some I know this way of thinking sounds utopia and too idealist. But what can I say to that argument I’m an idealist so therefore I’m constantly thinking outside the box of innovating ways to better ourselves and the community. I believe I am not alone and that their are many other Idealist out there thinking the same thing. I have found the most rewarding, peaceful, joyful and inspiring life happens when my thoughts or not on “I” but “we”.
This concept of thinking can be implemented in practical ways of living. For example, if a project is given at work, this communal way of winning could be implemented by thinking of ways to collaborate with all the human resources available which means looking in the community also perhaps inviting young people from the community into the office setting to help with the project. This provides an automatic mentoring partnership between your company and the young people in the community. Another example could be if your dealing with a personal struggle and have been trying to win alone at it…perhaps create your own support group…or if your an introvert like me, partner up with just one person, start a blog or webpage for others to come together dealing with the same issues. It seems to me we have a much better chance of actually really winning the race when we stop going at it alone and start reaching out to others.
The positive ripple effect of the many lives that can be transformed would be AMAZING!
We don’t like the word “Help” it represents needing and we like our independence. We see help as a weakness so we avoid it by all means necessary. How do we avoid it? When were really having an awful day and a friend says “How you doing”? We smile and say “I’m doing well” when actually we desperately need a listening ear. We may have fallen on hard times and money is low a family member offers to help and we turn them down. We as a society deny help. I believe our social injustices, inequalities, race issues and so many other issues could be resolved by admitting we need help. We are communal creatures designed to need each other our entire eco-system is designed off of one living thing needing another. Acknowledging help is a growth process it gives you a new perspective on life a sense of true freedom and relief that you don’t have to “know it all” “be it all” “solve it all”. It humbles you to the reality that there’s something greater a Higher Power working who is willing and able to provide the help needed only if we ask. When the walls of pride are bulldozer down the true concept of “United Nations” is formed. Acknowledging our need for help is a sign of strength and courage a true action verb that builds bridges, communities, families and nations.
This past week I watched two movies about civil war. One was about the Bougainville civil war between Papa New Guinea, The war has been described as the largest conflict in Oceania since the end of World War II. The other was about the Nigerian civil war, over the two and half years of the war, two million civilians died from forced famine and fighting. The brutal scenes of brothers and sisters killing each other pained me. I began to think of how so many wars have devastated countries and people lives.
I recently finish reading “A Radical King” a book on the philosophical views of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. He spoke often on agape love and the need for this type of love in the world. Agape love is not a feeling; it’s a motivation for action that we are free to choose or reject. Agape is a sacrificial love. Sacrificial love is a determined act of will, a joyful resolve to put the welfare of others above our own. From my personal experience of growth, I do not believe this type of love comes naturally to humans. For me, it has only been through the maturity of my relationship with the Creator have I become capable of agape love. For I believe the true source of agape love is from the Creator.
I choose to be an ambassador of agape love. I choose to continue to love my neighbor non-judgmentally. I choose equality and justice for ALL of mankind. See I believe deep rooted change can only begin with a reform in our individual hearts. Agape love must be in our hearts in order for true transformation to occur. We need an international movement of agape love to end the cycle of oppression. For the opposite of love is fear and fear breeds hate, hate breeds dissension, division and wars. We have traveled down and continue to travel down this path of destruction. And throughout history and present times we see where this leads us as a nation and humanity.
The power of love is seen through equality and justice. Love does not turn a blind eye but lends a helping hand.